Giver or Taker, Producer or Depleter: We All Know Who We Are. (EP. 214)

Groups

Introduction

We may pretend that either we don’t know which sort we are, or that we just know that we are in the good groups–but we all know the truth, whatever that is. One way to determine the truth is to take a look at the five people we spend the most time with, and ask the Giver or Taker and Producer or Depleter questions about them. And be honest; don’t try to skew the answers, knowing where this questioning is going. Once we have the answers about them, we have the answers about ourselves.

That is the subject of today’s 10-minute episode. 

Continuing

Very early in my Silicon Valley career, I became the department head of two combined departments in a publicly held software company, totalling about 45 people. The company was shuddering its way through layoffs, and the other department head had been sacked. In my third week in this position, I was given the order to lay off 40% of the combined department. I was told that it needed to be done at the close of business that Friday, and that the laid off personnel would be given severance packets. There were no other instructions.

 

Even though everyone was expecting a serious round of layoffs, I rejected the idea of telling the 20 people one-by-one starting Friday at 5, with the rumors about who was next spreading like wildfire after the second or third firing. I decided to put each group in separate meeting rooms, with those to be laid off in one room, and the others in another. I first went to the room with the survivors, made a quick announcement saying that they were safe, and that I would be back in a moment to answer questions. The second I walked into the room with those to be laid off, I knew that they knew. Each person had been looking around the room to see who else was there. And that’s all they needed to know to determine which group they were in. Before I made my announcement, before I even walked into the room, everyone there had already come to grips with what was happening to them. 

All of us know which group we are in. All we have to do is look around.

Today’s Key Point: If we don’t like where we are, we can fix it. Okay, Will, I believe that. How?

Make a decision. There is real power in making a decision. Charles Lindbergh, one of the greatest aviation heroes of his time, made the decision that he was going to be the first to fly non-stop across the Atlantic. When he awoke the next morning, he was filled with aggressive doubts. I am a broke US Mail pilot, flying WWI vintage biplanes. There are well-funded organizations already underway with multi-engine aircraft with experienced crews already training to compete for the prestigious Orteig Award and $25K cash prize. (Fancy money then.) Am I nuts?

So, did he quit? Did he say that he would go forward if he was miraculously given a huge sum of money and a new Ford Trimotor aircraft? No. He settled down as soon as he remembered that he had made a decision to be the first. And in 1927, he was. When he landed in Paris, he was greeted by a crowd of 200K; in New York City, he was celebrated by 4M. The lesson here is the power of making a decision and sticking to it. 

Lindberg’s decision was easy. Implementing it, making it happen, was hard. As it is with anything at all worthwhile in life. Life, correctly, is hard. 

Now to specifics, first make a decision to be more of a giver, to be more of a producer. That part is simple. Implementing this decision will be hard. The rules of life are simple. Implementing them is hard. 

This bears repeating: The rules of life are simple. Implementing them is hard. 

We all learn more from the hard times than we do from the easy times. I don’t know anyone for whom that is not true. Do you? And with those hard times, we can grow and strengthen ourselves to lead stronger, happier and better lives. Yes, I did say “happier.” There is no conflict between hard and happy, is there? 

We all know that to make a muscle stronger, we must work it, and the harder we work it, the stronger it becomes. Our minds are like muscles; we must work them to make them stronger, and the harder we work them, the stronger they become.

It is only when we push ourselves, mentally and/or physically, that we improve, get stronger, and further prepare ourselves for leading our best lives. The corollary is also true: When we don’t challenge ourselves, nothing gets better. If fact, things get worse. These physical and mental muscles will atrophy. And we get a touch lazy in the process.

Life is bad enough when we don’t challenge ourselves, when we don’t take responsibility for getting through the hard times. We are hurting ourselves and those around us, but that is all. It is far worse when powerful voices in leadership tell us that if things are hard, that not only is it proof that things are unfair, but that someone else is responsible for getting us through the hard bits. Why is it their responsibility? Because they are the ones who made it hard for us in the first place. That’s the reason that identity politics were dreamed up and are so often in the news. The idea is to relieve certain groups, those victimized by other groups, of responsibility while placing the blame and the responsibility on other groups. The responsibility always lies with us. And it starts with making the right decisions.

Second, let’s learn and grow from the process of learning how to give and produce more. Let’s look for opportunities to give and produce. Let’s find ways to associate with those who do. And we will grow and expand as contributing humans as we go along. It will be hard, but so well worth it.

Contact

As we get ready to wrap up, please do respond in the episodes with comments or questions about this episode or anything that comes to mind, or connect with me on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn. And you can subscribe on your favorite device through Apple, Google, or Stitcher.

If you liked today’s podcast, other podcasts or the revolution2-0.org site itself, comment, subscribe, and encourage others to subscribe with you. Each One Reach One will help spread the word about Revolution 2.0™.

Will Luden, coming to you from 7,200’ in Colorado Springs.

Will Luden
Join Me
Share on facebook
Facebook
Share on twitter
Twitter
Share on linkedin
LinkedIn
Share on pinterest
Pinterest

29 Responses

  1. admiralx-uae.ru Reply

    Excellent goods from you, man. I’ve take into accout your stuff prior to and you’re simply too fantastic.

    I actually like what you have acquired here, certainly like
    what you’re stating and the best way during which you are saying
    it. You are making it entertaining and you continue to care
    for to keep it wise. I cant wait to learn far more from you.
    This is really a terrific web site.

  2. ULTRA K9 PRO Reply

    It’s not my first time to pay a quick visit this site, i am visiting this website dailly and
    take pleasant information from here all the time.

  3. proxiescheap Reply

    What’s Going down i am new to this, I stumbled upon this
    I have found It positively helpful and it has helped
    me out loads. I’m hoping to give a contribution & aid other customers like its aided me.
    Great job.

  4. Forum Syair Sdy Reply

    I couldn’t refrain from commenting. Exceptionally well written!

  5. CharlesStome Reply

    india pharmacy mail order [url=https://indiapharmast.com/#]top 10 online pharmacy in india[/url] world pharmacy india

  6. CharlesStome Reply

    online shopping pharmacy india [url=https://indiapharmast.com/#]best online pharmacy india[/url] world pharmacy india

  7. Arnoldsuers Reply

    reputable mexican pharmacies online [url=http://mexicandeliverypharma.com/#]п»їbest mexican online pharmacies[/url] purple pharmacy mexico price list

  8. Arnoldsuers Reply

    mexican online pharmacies prescription drugs [url=https://mexicandeliverypharma.com/#]reputable mexican pharmacies online[/url] reputable mexican pharmacies online

  9. Arnoldsuers Reply

    reputable mexican pharmacies online [url=https://mexicandeliverypharma.com/#]reputable mexican pharmacies online[/url] pharmacies in mexico that ship to usa

  10. Arnoldsuers Reply

    reputable mexican pharmacies online [url=http://mexicandeliverypharma.com/#]pharmacies in mexico that ship to usa[/url] mexico drug stores pharmacies

  11. Arnoldsuers Reply

    purple pharmacy mexico price list [url=http://mexicandeliverypharma.com/#]mexican pharmacy[/url] mexico drug stores pharmacies

  12. Arnoldsuers Reply

    medicine in mexico pharmacies [url=https://mexicandeliverypharma.online/#]medicine in mexico pharmacies[/url] mexico drug stores pharmacies

  13. Arnoldsuers Reply

    mexico pharmacy [url=https://mexicandeliverypharma.online/#]mexican online pharmacies prescription drugs[/url] mexico pharmacy

  14. Arnoldsuers Reply

    mexico drug stores pharmacies [url=http://mexicandeliverypharma.com/#]mexican pharmaceuticals online[/url] mexican border pharmacies shipping to usa

  15. RobertHix Reply

    prednisone 5 50mg tablet price [url=https://prednisonebestprice.pro/#]prednisone 10mg tablets[/url] prednisone 40 mg

  16. RobertHix Reply

    tamoxifen hot flashes [url=http://nolvadexbestprice.pro/#]tamoxifen generic[/url] tamoxifen for breast cancer prevention

  17. StanleyWen Reply

    tamoxifen effectiveness [url=https://tamoxifen.bid/#]tamoxifen postmenopausal[/url] nolvadex price

  18. StanleyWen Reply

    cost of lisinopril 2.5 mg [url=https://lisinopril.guru/#]Lisinopril refill online[/url] price of zestril 30 mg

  19. Anthonypek Reply

    reputable mexican pharmacies online [url=https://mexstarpharma.com/#]reputable mexican pharmacies online[/url] pharmacies in mexico that ship to usa

  20. Anthonypek Reply

    п»їlegitimate online pharmacies india [url=https://easyrxindia.com/#]п»їlegitimate online pharmacies india[/url] mail order pharmacy india

  21. LeslieRem Reply

    vavada зеркало [url=https://vavada.auction/#]вавада рабочее зеркало[/url] vavada

  22. JosephRom Reply

    purple pharmacy mexico price list [url=https://mexicopharmacy.cheap/#]mexico drug stores pharmacies[/url] mexican pharmaceuticals online

  23. JosephRom Reply

    cymbalta online pharmacy [url=https://pharmbig24.online/#]pharmacy selling viagra in dubai[/url] online pharmacy venlafaxine

  24. JosephRom Reply

    indian pharmacies safe [url=https://indianpharmacy.company/#]п»їlegitimate online pharmacies india[/url] indian pharmacy

  25. JosephRom Reply

    mexican border pharmacies shipping to usa [url=https://mexicopharmacy.cheap/#]mexican pharmaceuticals online[/url] medicine in mexico pharmacies

  26. JosephRom Reply

    tacrolimus pharmacy [url=https://pharmbig24.online/#]viagra local pharmacy[/url] discount pharmacy mexico

  27. JosephRom Reply

    india online pharmacy [url=http://indianpharmacy.company/#]reputable indian pharmacies[/url] top 10 online pharmacy in india

  28. JamesTox Reply

    starzbet [url=http://starzbet.shop/#]starzbet guvenilir mi[/url] starzbet guncel giris

  29. JamesTox Reply

    casibom 158 giris [url=http://casibom.auction/#]casibom giris adresi[/url] casibom giris adresi

Leave a Reply

Recent Episodes

Subscribe to Revolution 2.0

* indicates required

Follow me On Social

Subscribe to Podcast

SUPPORT THE REVOLUTION

Scroll to top
X
Skip to content